Monday, October 26, 2009

Decision2Love tweet rants III

I think women are confused as to what it means to play "hard to get."

Saturday, October 24, 2009

Three parts to a Man - Mind, Body and Soul

Mind - craves Knowledge. Teach him.

Body - craves Touch. Hold him.

Soul - craves Love. Lead him.

Tuesday, October 20, 2009

WHAT HAPPENS IN HEAVEN - A friend shared this story with me


This is one of the nicest e-mails I have seen and is so true:

I dreamt that I went to Heaven and an angel was showing me around. We walked side-by-side inside a large workroom filled with angels. My angel guide stopped in front of the first section and said, 'This is the Receiving Section. Here, all petitions to God said in prayer are received. '

I looked around in this area, and it was terribly busy with so many angels sorting out petitions written on voluminous paper sheets and scraps from people all over the world.

Then we moved on down a long corridor until we reached the second section.

The angel then said to me, ' This is the Packaging and Delivery Section. Here, the graces and blessings the people asked for are processed and delivered to the living persons who asked for them. ' I noticed again how busy it was there. There were many angels working hard at that station, since so many blessings had been requested and were being packaged for delivery to Earth.

Finally at the farthest end of the long corridor we stopped at the door of a very small station. To my great surprise, only one angel was seated there, idly doing nothing. 'This is the Acknowledgment Section,' my angel friend quietly admitted to me. He seemed embarrassed. 'How is it that there is no work going on here?' I asked.

'So sad,' the angel sighed. 'After people receive the blessings that they asked for, very few send back acknowledgments.'

'How does one acknowledge God's blessings? ' I asked.

'Simple,' the angel answered. Just say, ' Thank you, Lord. '

'What blessings should they acknowledge? ' I asked.

'If you have food in the refrigerator, clothes on your back, a roof overhead and a place to sleep you are richer than 75% of this world. If you have money in the bank, in your wallet, and spare change in a dish, you are among the top 8% of the world 's wealthy.'

'And if you get this on your own computer, you are part of the 1% in the world who has that opportunity. '

'If you woke up this morning with more health than illness ... You are more blessed than the many who will not even survive this day.'

'If you have never experienced the fear in battle, the loneliness of imprisonment, the agony of torture, or the pangs of starvation .. You are ahead of 700 million people in the world. '

'If you can attend a place of worship without the fear of harassment, arrest, torture or death you are envied by, and more blessed than, three billion people in the world.. '

'If your parents are still alive and still married are very rare. '

'If you can hold your head up and smile, you are not the norm, you're unique to all those in doubt and despair. '
Ok, what now? How can I start?

If you can read this message, you just received a double blessing in that someone was thinking of you as very special and you are more blessed than over two billion people in the world who cannot read at all.

Have a good day, count your blessings, and if you care to, pass this along to remind everyone else how blessed we all are.

Monday, October 5, 2009

Decision2Love tweet rants II

When u view Love from a point of scarcity your instinct is to cling to any signs of Love you see.
12:47 PM Oct 11th from mobile web

But when you view Love from a point of abundance you realize its ok to be alone with yourself.
12:49 PM Oct 11th from mobile web

We need to understand that Loving others is, or should be, natural to us.
12:52 PM Oct 11th from mobile web

We cannot stop the one we want to build with from being inspired to Love others.
12:56 PM Oct 11th from mobile web

All we can do is build a strong foundation TOGETHER with them, maintain it and have Faith in what we have built.
12:59 PM Oct 11th from mobile web


To all u indie artists, ur relationship with ur fans is the diff btween staying hungry or eating a three course meal!
12:16 PM Oct 11th from mobile web

Are you using all that is available to build that connection?
12:18 PM Oct 11th from mobile web

When u take the time to build that foundation with ur loyal fans, they will be your vanguard!
12:21 PM Oct 11th from mobile web


A strong foundation is vital to a skyscraper. When you reach for the sky, be sure of your foundation.
10:53 PM Oct 10th from web

If you want to build with someone, understand that to build a foundation you must begin with a conversation.
10:54 PM Oct 10th from web


Listening to - Natasha Bedingfield - Soulmate
12:21 PM Oct 6th from web

"Who knows how to Love you without being told." That unrealistic expectation is why your alone. Some teaching is always required!
12:22 PM Oct 6th from web

I try to keep my distance from two types of people - those who refuse to teach and those who refuse to learn. Explains a lot. =/
12:24 PM Oct 6th from web


On more then one occasion I have heard women joke that they can tell within 5 seconds of meeting a guy whether he is gonna get sum 2nite.
5:58 PM Oct 5th from web

Is this true ladies?
5:58 PM Oct 5th from web

The other day a woman complained that the word Love was too important a word to be used so often, so casually.
5:59 PM Oct 5th from web

Ladies, do you agree?
6:00 PM Oct 5th from web

Ok ladies, what about the entryway to your womb, is that important? Should that be offered so casually?
6:02 PM Oct 5th from web

Lets make a deal. I will not judge you for how quickly you open your legs and you will not judge me for how quickly I open my heart. Deal?
6:03 PM Oct 5th from web


I've learned that it doesn't matter if you did nothing wrong. You can still be blamed for breaking someone's heart. =/
5:06 PM Oct 5th from web


I Love You! Practice Love's dance daily. Eventually you'll learn all the steps and will be able to tango with the best. ;)
10:00 AM Oct 1st from web


A lot of intense heat without any ingredients just leads to a burnt pot.
10:34 AM Sep 29th from web

If you don't know what the recipe is, get a cookbook.
10:36 AM Sep 29th from web

The ability to turn on the stove doesn't make you a chef.
10:37 AM Sep 29th from web

If the recipe says you need to let it simmer, then putting the heat on blast makes you an idiot!
10:45 AM Sep 29th from web


Tuesday, September 29, 2009

Decision2Love tweet rants.

Those that work the (established ) system are followers. Those that change the system are leaders.
11:46 AM Sep 16th from mobile web

Are you following or leading?
11:47 AM Sep 16th from mobile web


Romance is dead and women killed it!
10:03 PM Sep 24th from web

There is always something to complain about for women. Either he doesn't say "I Love You" ever, or he says it too soon for her to handle.
10:14 PM Sep 24th from web

One woman went so far as to complain about the gestures men make to inspire her to Love. So much for Romance.
10:16 PM Sep 24th from web

So why do I think Romance is a goner? Well lets look at the reason men invented it. Men don't need it anymore to get some.
10:17 PM Sep 24th from web

There are women aplenty that don't give a shit about Love and relationships and only want to get the deed done.
10:19 PM Sep 24th from web

Men are no longer motivated to do anything special. They know if one plays to hard to get, he has 100 other numbers to call.
10:20 PM Sep 24th from web

Women decided they were going to be as bad as men, and they have succeeded!
10:22 PM Sep 24th from web

Congratulations ladies!
10:27 PM Sep 24th from web

Heads up ladies, if u really looking to be the Equal of men, don't go about it trying 2 be as Bad as us. Try being as much a leader instead
10:30 PM Sep 24th from web

Ladies need to stop complaining about what men don't do and start doing it themselves.
10:33 PM Sep 24th from web

And next time a man reaches out to you, give yourself the opportunity to have at least one real conversation b4 writing him off.
10:36 PM Sep 24th from web

Some of you ladies need to understand that men who really want to respect you are not gonna try to bag you the first night.
10:41 PM Sep 24th from web

These same men will gladly do so if you make it clear thats what you really want.
10:43 PM Sep 24th from web

The problem with many women though is that they are unwilling to be honest with themselves and men about sex.
10:47 PM Sep 24th from web

So ladies, if you want to have sex like men, don't complain about the lack of Romance. Men don't need flowers to get the job done.
10:51 PM Sep 24th from web


Here are two choices. Which one would you choose? A small bowl of extraordinary delicious food at $100 a serving or a full plate of ...cont-
6:52 PM Sep 26th from web

ordinary humble good food for $10 at the all you can eat buffet?
6:53 PM Sep 26th from web

So I read a tweet where a woman said she would rather have a slice of a great man then the whole of an ordinary one.
6:54 PM Sep 26th from web

She sounds like mistress material to me.
6:55 PM Sep 26th from web

When did being an ordinary good man become a bad thing? Why is it we all have to strive to be rockstars to be deserving of a woman's Love?
6:58 PM Sep 26th from web

Btw, someone who cares to take the time can take ordinary ingredients and turn them into something extraordinary. Love does wonders.
7:02 PM Sep 26th from web

What is important is having the right basics already in place. You have to have a good foundation of ingredients.
7:06 PM Sep 26th from web


Love cannot be owned, only shared.
12:30 PM Sep 27th from mobile web

When you don't take time to reflect your vulnerable to accepting B.S. as wisdom. Set aside time.
12:39 PM Sep 27th from mobile web


Everyone keeps repeating "never make some1 a Priority when ur jus their Option." I disagree. You cant keep everyone an Option 4ever.
12:10 AM Sep 28th from web

Eventually someone has to make a decision to make one of their options a priority and place a bet that the decision will be reciprocated.
12:11 AM Sep 28th from web

If its not reciprocated, so be it, but at least you have grown as a person in the attempt.
12:13 AM Sep 28th from web

It would be fantastic if the person you loved met you half way, but it does not seem to work that way.
12:14 AM Sep 28th from web

The thing is, once you've reached out and made clear how you feel, let them go. You can't make someone return feelings.
12:19 AM Sep 28th from web

What should have been said, "there is a limit to how long you make someone a priority while they keep you as an option."
12:31 AM Sep 28th from web

The history of courtship (as shown in literature and film) has been of 1 woman pursued by numerous men. Eventually the best man wins her <3.
12:37 AM Sep 28th from web

What has changed is the fact that men are less inclined to pursue women, since women give away their prized possession long b4 marriage.
12:41 AM Sep 28th from web

Double standard? Yes, it is. Romance and Chivalry come with a history and a price- a set of rules of how a woman should act.
12:45 AM Sep 28th from web

This reminds me of a couple of articles I read recently on women and happiness.
12:50 AM Sep 28th from web

The first article I read said that in general, women today are less happy then they were a few decades ago.
12:51 AM Sep 28th from web

Afterward I was left with the impression that perhaps it had something to do with women's growing Equality.
12:53 AM Sep 28th from web

Interestingly enough, another article came out in regards to feminist women and how very happy they are in general. Hmmm.
12:54 AM Sep 28th from web

So if feminist women are generally very happy, but women in general are less happy then they were decades ago, then what gives?
12:55 AM Sep 28th from web

I'm still thinking it has something to do with the move towards more Equality for women.
12:56 AM Sep 28th from web

I'm thinking that if feminist women are generally very happy and in stable relationships, then the problem must be with non-feminist.
12:58 AM Sep 28th from web

My theory is that the happiness factor is lower among women who do not want to accept Equality and the loss of perks that results.
1:04 AM Sep 28th from web

Too many women are deluding themselves into thinking that by having as much sex as men they are proving themselves the equal of men. smh
1:14 AM Sep 28th from web

Demonstrating Leadership is the only way for women to show they are equals. Duplicating men's hijinks just makes women look foolish.
1:20 AM Sep 28th from web

I repeat, Ladies, you must be willing & able to lead at every stage of a relationship or you are as lame as the men you complain about.
1:22 AM Sep 28th from web

Wednesday, September 2, 2009

The Last Lecture by Randy Pausch

As seen on Oprah

The full Lecture given at the University

Thursday, July 16, 2009


Anyone who thinks this quote "rocks" and think its "wisdom" does not appreciate what someone at their "worst" really means.

Please watch this video-Spoken Word Poetry by Lamont Carey - She Says She Loves Me!!!




If you can't handle me at my Worst, then you don't deserve me at my Best....... Agree/Disagree!
By Tsamaya is on semi-retirement Asked Jan 20 2009 1:13PM

Top Answer out of 14
by Cubaneyes29 on Mar 14, 2009 at 8:44 am Permalink

This is the statement of a man or woman who is rationalizing their bad behavior. It shows selfishness and a lack of empathy for the feelings of others. Drop the person who issues this dictate.


I know some marriage vows say "for better of for worse" but I do not believe you should stay in a abusive relationship.
Its one thing to deal with disagreements, to have heated discussions, to forgive some mean words, but people really do not understand that in the real world, a person's "worst" can mean death for their partner. Oh, I can already imagine some of you defending yourselves with, "oh, but my worse would never be that bad." You miss the point. If your going to choose words to live by, make sure you understand the complete implications of those words. Words are powerful. Do not underestimate what a statement like this can do to the mentality of a young person growing up. To teach them that it is reasonable for people to contend with their worst behavior is not a good lesson, yet as I look around, its the one I see being taught. So to make my point clear, you should be presenting yourself best as you can consistently and you should be very careful of how much of another's "worst" you allow in your life because it could cost you your life.

Sunday, May 10, 2009

Get Back Up! w/ Nick Vujicic

Tuesday, May 5, 2009

The Myth on Love and Power

Some people are under the confused thought that the person that loves more is the weaker person in a relationship.

That is not true.

Its the person that loves less that is weakest.

What you have to focus on is how well do the individuals love themselves.

The individuals the love themselves will always have power and the amount of love they give their partner gives them more power.

The only time you will find weakness is with the individual that does not love themselves and gives little love to their partner.

The individual that knows how to love the person that they are and knows how to share their love generously will always find someone who will welcome that love.

The person that does not love who they are and shows little love
to others will always be at a disadvantage.

That is the truth of Love and Power

God bless you

Journey - Don't Stop Believing

Lip Dub: Journey's Don't Stop Believing from Julia Allison on Vimeo.

Monday, April 20, 2009

[Verse 1]
Young men please be careful with, the young ladies.
Dont do the things, you know that guys do.
Cos’ shes growing up and showing it, you know she believes.
So dont make it harder, than it has to be.

Dont let nobody, treat her rough.
Be the one to back her up.
Weither she do or dont put out.

Tell her thats shes,
Wonderful, Beautiful, Fabulous,
Tell her thats shes,
Got someone, To stand by for the roads,
Tell her thats shes,
Everything, you praid for, and even more, you adore her.
In and out the clothes,
Shes your Ghetto Rose.

[Verse 2]
Young men please be careful with, your own ladies.
Dont do the things, you know that guys do.
If theres anyway your gonna keep, a family.
And everything as precious to you.

Dont ever ever, treat her rough.
Be the one to lift her up.
And dont you ever shut her out.

Tell her thats shes,
Wonderful, Beautiful, Fabulous,
Tell her thats shes,
Got someone, To stand by for the roads,
Tell her thats shes,
Everything, you praid for, and even more, you adore her.
In and out the clothes,
Shes your Ghetto Rose.

Sunday, April 19, 2009

Ok, time to start some controversy, maybe. ;)

- So, I read this article by @ScottMcKay the other day. In it he spoke on the issue of men and women and power.

- He said when men chase sex, women have all the power, but when they seek a commitment, men have all the power.

- I think @ScotMcKay is right, and that ...

- women prefer the power dynamics of a man that wants her for her body as opposed to the vulnerability they feel with a man that wants her <3

- In addition, women assume any man that speaks of emotions early on must be a liar.

- So women are more comfortable with a man that professes he wants her body as opposed to one that wants her heart.

- Women today are just not prepared to accept a high level of emotion early on.

- I am now of firm belief that the urban women I meet today would not even consider a relationship until after they have sex.

- In a separate study, @ScottMcKay said most women do not have sex on the first date.

- Most women I have met do not have a problem with sex on the first date, so long as I am is willing to take responsibility for the idea.

- I've disappointed and confused a few women when I did not take them to bed the same night.

- All they wanted was sex and no second date was scheduled.

- I have like sex, but women who need me to give them permission to be the freak they know they are annoy me.

- This is why I prefer having a relationship to dating.

- I think women like to complain about men using them, but women are just as guilty these days.

- I think women today lie to themselves more then men lie to women.

- People should stop wondering why they keep ending up in bad relationships.

- Take responsibility for the standards you are using to choose partners.

- I feel most women think that being submissive to an Alpha male is still the best move.

- I want a woman that is my equal so I will lean towards being Beta and stay single.

- With my last long term relationship, of almost ten years, I waited almost a year.

- Sex should be between lovers, but today its treated like a sport.

- Dating and having sex are not the same thing, though some view it as such.

Your thoughts?

Wednesday, April 15, 2009

The Man Who Did Not Believe In Love


"There was once a man who didn't believe in love. This was an ordinary man just like you and me, but what made this man special was his way of thinking: He thought love doesn't exist. Of course, he had a lot of experience trying to find love, and he observed the people around him. Much of his life had been spent searching for love, only to find that love didn't exist.

Wherever this man went, he would tell people of his thoughts and opinions on love. This man was highly intelligent, and he was very convincing. What he said was the love is just like a drug; it makes you very high, but it creates a strong need. You can become highly addicted to love, but what happens when you don't receive your daily doses of love? Just like a drug, you need your everyday doses.

He used to say that most relationships between lovers are just like a relationship between a drug addict and the one who provides the drugs. The one who has the biggest need is like the drug addict; the one who has a little need is like the provider. The one who has the little need is the one who controls the whole relationship. You can see this dynamic so clearly because usually in every relationship there is one who loves the most and the other who doesn't love as much. You can see the way they manipulate each other, their actions and reactions, and they are just like the provider and the drug addict.

The drug addict, the one who has the biggest need, lives in constant fear that perhaps he will not be able to get the next dosage of love, or the drug. The drug addict thinks, "What am I going to do if she leaves me?" That fear makes the drug addict very possessive. "That's mine!" The addict becomes jealous and demanding, because the fear of not having the next dosage. The provider can control and manipulate the one who needs the drug by giving more doses, fewer doses, or no doses at all. The one who has the biggest need completely surrenders and will whatever he can to avoid being abandoned.

The man went on explain to everyone why love doesn't exist, and how what humans call 'love' is nothing but a fear relationship based ... So many promises are made to each other: to live together forever, to love and respect each other, through the good times and the bad times but after marriage, you can see that none of these promises are kept.

What you find is a war of control to see who will manipulate whom. Who will be the provider? And who will have the addiction. You find that a few months later, the respect that they swear to have for each other is gone. You can see the resentment, the emotional poison, how they hurt each other, little by little, and it grows and grows, until they don't know when the love stops. They stay together because they are afraid to be alone, afraid of the opinions and judgments of others, and also afraid of their judgments and opinions. But where is the love?

The man went on and on about all the reasons why he believed love doesn't exist.

The one day this man was walking in a park, and there on a bench was a beautiful lady who was crying. When he saw her crying, felt curiosity. Sitting beside her, he asked if he could help her. He asked why she was crying. You can imagine his surprise when she told him she was crying because love doesn't exist. "This is amazing--a woman who believes that love doesn't exist!" Of course he wanted to know more about her.

He asked her why she felt that love doesn't exist and she told him about her marriage and how she and her husband had both lost respect for each other. She told him about how they hurt each other, and at a certain point she discovered that she didn't love him and that he didn't love her either. 'But the children need a father, and that was my excuse to stay and to do whatever I could to support him. Now the children are grown up and they have left. I no longer have any excuse to stay with him....There is no sense to look around for something that doesn't exist. That is why I am crying.'

Understand her very well, he embraced her and said, you are right; love doesn't exist. We look for love, we open our heart and we become vulnerable, just to find selfishness. That hurts us even if we don't think we will be hurt. It doesn't matter how many relationships we have; the same thing happens again and again. Why even search for love any longer?"

They were so much alike, and they became the best friends ever. It was a wonderful relationship. They respected each other, and they never put each other down. With every step they took together, they were happy. There was no envy or jealousy, there was no control, and there was no possessiveness. The relationship kept growing and growing. They loved to be together, because when they were together, they had a lot of fun. When they were not together, they missed each other.

One day when the man was out of town, he had the weirdest idea. He was thinking, 'Hmm, maybe what I feel for her is love. But this is so different from what I have ever felt before. It's not what the poets say it is, it's not what religion says it is, because I am not responsible for her. I don't take anything from her; I don't have the need for her to take care of me; I don't need to blame her for my difficulties or to take my dramas to her. We have the best time together; we enjoy each other. I respect the way she thinks, the way she feels. She doesn't embarrass me; she doesn't bother me at all. I don't feel jealous when she's with other people; I don't feel envy when she is successful. Perhaps love does exist, but it's not what everyone thinks love is.'

He could hardly wait to go back home and talk to her, to let her know about his weird idea. As soon as he started talking, she knew exactly what he was talking about. She felt the same way. They decided to become lovers and to live together, and it was amazing that things didn't change. They still respected each other, they were still supportive of each other, and the love grew more and more.

The man's heart was so full with all the love he felt that one night a great miracle happened. He was looking at the stars and he found the most beautiful one, and his love was so big that the star started coming down from the sky and soon that star was in his hands. Then a second miracle happened, and his soul merged with that star. He was intensely happy, and he could hardly wait to go to the woman and put that start in her hands to prove his love for her. As soon as he put the star in her hands, she felt a moment of doubt. This love was overwhelming, and in that moment, the star fell from her hands and broke in a million of little pieces.

Now there is an old man walking around the world swearing that love doesn't exist. And there is a beautiful old woman at home waiting for a man, shedding a tear for a paradise that once she had in her hands, but for one moment of doubt, she let it go. This is the story about the man who didn't believe in love.

Who made the mistake? Do you want to guess what went wrong? The mistake was on the man's part in thinking he could give the woman his happiness. The star was his happiness, and his mistake was to put his happiness in her hands. Happiness never comes from outside of us. He was happy because of the love coming out of him; she was happy because of the love coming out of her. But as soon as he made her responsible for his happiness, she broke the star because she could not be responsible for his happiness.

No matter how much the woman loved him, she could never make him happy because she could never know what he had in his mind. She could never know what his expectations were, because she could not know his dreams.

If you take your happiness, and put it in someone's hands, sooner or later, she is going to break it. If you give your happiness to someone else, she can always take it away. Then if happiness can only come from inside of you and is the result of your love, you are responsible for your own happiness. We can never make anyone responsible for our own happiness, but when we go to the church to get married, the first thing we do is exchange rings. We put our star in each other's hands, expecting that she is going to make you happy, and you are going to make her happy. It doesn't matter how much you love someone, you are never going to be what that person wants you to be.

That is the mistake most of us make right from the beginning. We base our happiness on our partner and it doesn't work that way. We make all those promises that we cannot keep, and we set ourselves up to fail."

author- anonymous (got this from a friend on MySpace)

Tuesday, April 14, 2009

Stand By Me - Beautiful International Version

found at-

original copy at-

McHammer poses the question, "Please define what a real man is... A Real Man is a ...."

Here are some enlightening (and in some cases disturbing) replies to the question posed. There is definitely some agreement on some things. Which of these replies do you agree with? Do you have anything to add to this conversation?

-A real man has Integrity.
-A real man is....Not afraid to ask the question!
-a man that isn't afraid to say and portray his true emotions.
-A Real Man is a gentleman who knows how to stick up for his lady
-an amazing father
-..Hmm a real man is someone that can walk away instead of fight..thats what i think one is..a real gentleman
-A real man doesn't CHEAT!!!
-a real man is honest, loyal and kind
-a god fearing honest supportive dedicated family man!
-A real man is not what he can conquer but what he can provide... comfort, compassion, love. These make a real man,
-...a man who owns up to his mistakes
-man that isnt afraid to show his tru feelings.. not afraid to cry and show the sensitive side.. is confident not too confident
-......someone who treats others with respect
-A real man is a man who's not afraid of responsibility, who treats his lady like a queen, not a whore, a man who's respectful
-who takes care of his family and himself and loves the LORD and not afraid to admit it!!!!
-a real man is caring and dependable
-A real man will have no problem showing affection, isn't stubborn, and knows when to let go of a fight and let her win.
-a real man is too legit to quit.
-he also has heart, soul and a wicked sharp mind. he's independent. oh, and funny. yes, funny.
-man who changes diapers, washes dishes and cooks me a meal from time to time instead of thinking it is always the womans jobs
-is not afraid to cry, doesn't lie and can make you laugh..gotta have a sense of humo
-someone that knows how to treat a lady!!
-ez a real man is everything most men ain't lol mature not afraid to admit when he's wrong, truthful n has to have manors.
-we dont know cuz if we did, we wouldnt still be lookin for one
-one who listens and pays attention to the little things that make me happy
-A real man is a man who loves unconditionally and without fear.
-man who listens, who doesn't judge, who opens doors, who loves you when your at your best but mostly when you're at your worst
-A Real man is never afraid of his feelings and letting a real woman be the queen she is meant to be!
-is one that doesnt have to prove he is
-a real man could spend 30 minutes painlessly and lovingly detangle your hair but be wise enough to know when to pull it a little
-matter who's around. A real man is a man who admits when he does wrong, who will love his lady for the woman that she is
-among other things...A real man will stand up for when he is right but be willing to admit when he is wrong....
-a REAL man is patient
-Tells You The Truth Even When The Truth Hurts!
-A real man, doesn't have to prove anything to anyone. He knows who he is.
-witty, considerate, mannerd person with a wicked good sense of humor
-A real man is one who follows Christ and takes care of his own.
-a real man acts with honour, dignity & courage. He stands by his family, isn't afraid to cry & he puts the seat down!
-He is a man that steps up to responsibilies no matter the backlash or consequences. A real man loves his wife & family always
-is not afraid to cry when warranted, is protective and passionate
-A real man doesn't have to define non-sexual things as gay or straight. He's already comfortiable with who he is to care.
-A Real Man is an honest, stand-up dude
-a real man is supportive, poetic, isnt afraid to show affection in public, isnt afraid to be a stay at home dad for the womans job
-A Real Man is a Man who Loves Jesus and Adores/Loves/is Faithful to his wife and treats her like a jewel.
-friend, lover, protector, but mostly a devoted follower of Jesus
-a real man is a man who isnt afraid to cy in front of a girl
-A Real Man is an Honest Man...
-A real man has respect for himself and confidence; which inturn makes him respectful to women and treat them right!
-a real man is a father
-a man who will love you unconditionally and will do whatever it takes to protect you and make you happy!!
-A real Man can stand up and face his mistakes, handle his responsibilities, pay child support & treat his woman as equal.
-A real man, doesn't have to prove anything to anyone. He knows who he is.
-man who respects his woman and loves her more than anything else and who has a future planned for success
-A Real Man is...respectful!
-a real man is somebody who is not afraid to bond physically, spiritually and emotionally in a respectful matter to better him &her
-A real man is a gentleman, nothing looks better on a man than good manners.
-A Real man is never afraid of his feelings and letting a real woman be the queen she is meant to be!
-one who is confident, takes care of his family, God Fearing..and supportive
-god fearing, protector, wise,provider and encourager
-a real man is what salt & pepa sang about back in the day! who can be honest, vulnerable, strong, safe and decent. Who treats everyone with respect.
-one who has the courage to be honest with himself, the humility to revere God, the modesty to treat others with respect
-...a man who owns up to his mistakes
-a REAL man is sensual
-a guy who will pay attention to you
-a real man is a father, husband, friend, and your rock when ever you need him!
-is a guy who can show emotion, live life to its fullest & sticks to his beliefs at all costs. vulnerable and strong. And he can be both simultaneously.
-A real man is not a jerk.
-man that is not afraid to show alitttle sensitivity
-a great man loves Christ, family and that order! whose actions are human first, male second. Don't *act* like a guy; act like *you*.
-who knows what to do, without you telling him what to do
-someone whose actions speak louder than his words.
-A real man is a God-fearing, God-serving man - body, soul & spirit.
-a real man is a God fearing man, a man that is not afraid to be the man whom he is destined to be
-a real man makes a woman feel SAFE, i.e, is strong, confident, good listener, doesn't judge, honest, respectable
-a real man is someone who isn't afraid to talk about his feelings and show his emotions
-a man who's after God's own heart...
-A real man is a present father, a compassionate human, and someone that can stand strong on their beliefs.
-tough,but shows weakness...hard,but shows his soft side,honest,trustworthy,and a good son,also a Daddy...not just a father
-A real man is responsible, accountable for his actions, and means what he says and says what he means.
-A Real Man is a Godly, Righteous man, that leads his family to Christ by his own life
-gentleman and loves God more than he loves you.
-a real man is sensitive to his womans needs whilst not compromising his own
-A Real Man loves the Lord, one woman faithfully and his children. he worships, loves and works hard
-man who can protect and cry; a person of truth and love.
-A real man is someone who loves himself. If you can't love yourself, who can you love.
-a real man eats STEAK, drinks BEER and is trustworthy! Hope that
-A Real Man is a friend who stands by you through thick or thin who can still kiss u(or more)goodnight no matter how bad things get
-hmmm... There are many facets to a real man, but he is one that takes responsibility for his own actions, be they good or bad
-a man that won't LIE or CHEAT on you!!!!!
-GOD fearing man.
-I think a real man is a God fearing warrior, seriously.
-hes strong & still capable of being emotional, confident not cocky, business saavy with thug appeal, god fearing and intellectual
-Real Man is a ....ONE THAT LOVES GOD FIRST.
-A Real Man is one that is comfortable with himself and confident and does what he says and means what he does.
-loving, respectful, man of god, who knows your worth and doesn't second guess himself
-a real man is a guy who works hard, treats women with respect, stands up for what he believes in and is trustworthy.
-Take care of All His Responsibilities
-a Real Man is someone who is there for you when the rest of the world walks out!
-gentleman who opens the door for you and who doesn't leave the toilet seat up*LOL*
-a real man is honest, willing and loving
-real men have the balls to be honest and not play games. And they like real women not bimbos..
-bottom line for me, a real man is one who is sure of himself in Christ and works at getting closer and closer to Him. period.
-is the man who sticks through your good and bad days.
-an unselfish lover, who puts the good of his family above himself, is strong, and makes a living in the service of his fellow man.
-A Real Man is a Listener
-real man is to know the retrospective of and respect and it will make ther mama proud=)
-a real man is the definition of a fairytale god. Strong, yet empathetic.
-...a constant work in progress who always strives to better himself and his family.
-a real man is strong enough to know when it's ok to show his weakness, and use it to teach His family about Gods love...
-A real man knows how to treat a woman and his family right, no matter what. And knows that family comes first. Always.
-...a GENTLE MAN...more than just pulling out chairs...
-Works hard and plays less..simple!
-A real man can make me laugh nig. That's all it takes.
-is a loyal man.
-A real man is a man who puts God in his life first, loves himself and treats his woman as he treats his own body.
-strong enough to be compassionate and understanding enough to forgive imperfection for starters.
-is someone who takes responsibility and takes care of himself and his loved ones. someone who gives unselfishly to his loved ones
-not afraid to cry or laugh at him self and not afraid to admit a mistake.
-a real man is a provider as well as protector of his family. He is honest and dependable and deserves the respect he gets.
-He knows how to make me happy & doesn't have a problem putting his ego aside :-)
-A real man is a man who isn't afraid to be his true self and who is a productive contributor to society in some way.
-A real man doesn't hide behind false sense of confidence (don't know themselves)
-a man is not a man just because he is over 21 a man is a man by the choices he make and do and say
-a real man is someone who treats his girl right and talks to people, not at them.
-A real man is one who makes a woman feel secure enough not to want to control him cause she knows he will do right..
-a real man is a man who loves and takes care of his family. He makes decisions with them in mind and always protects them.
-Among other things, a real man is honest.
-theres no one definition but he WORKS at being the best person he can be that includes honesty integrity
-...compassionate, considerate, patient, loving, understanding, strong, proud, intelligent, worldly person.
-is a man who has accountability for the things he says and does.
-one who has big respect for himself and others? :)
-man commited to his values and people, a man that will never give up on you and you can always count on him for support n care!
-a real man is a certain man.
-A real man is someone who respects a woman as an equal!!!
-man who can admit when he's wrong
-A real man can admit when they are wrong.
-a real man is a man that respects woman and takes care of his responsibilities
-not afraid to show his emotions
-A real man puts his family's thoughts and well being before his own in every decision he makes.
-a real man is one who is not afraid to show raw honest emotion!
-A Real man is one who knows how to give and take respect, and who can show his love in HER love language. :-)
-a man who realises that all men and women are equal.
-leader and takes responsibility.
-a real man is a great lover, listener, supporter, looker, humorous, talented and always 'fresh'
-A real man is confident without being cocky
-He listens, analyzes and recognizes there are areas where he has strengths, then uses his strengths to support, not destroy.
-A real man loves God with all his heart, soul and mind! :)
-a provider a protecter a companion a spiritual inspiration a educater and a motivater
-A Real Man Take care of All His Responsibilities
-a real man is someone who takes care of his kids and wife and gives back when he can
-A Real Man is a Man that respects women and treats them like a queen, but still maintains his "macho" ways
-A Real Man is 1 who lives as God intended. Who takes care of home and any babies outside home :)
-A real man is someone who respects a woman as an equal!!!
-a provider, lover, protector, man of christ, understands a woman and can fulfill her every want, need & desire.
-a real man, prays, loves, protects, gets down on the floor and plays with the babies, changes dirty diapers, loves his family.
-..lover and a fighter. Fighting for what he loves!
-a real man is a man that respects a womens rights and is royal and true to others, and rarely hates anyone at all
-a real man is patient and understanding. That's all he needs to be.
-a real man is an honest man.
-a ReaL man is honest, caring, loyal, dedicated, LoVing, HarD working, focuseD, "ReaL" FaithFilleD, CleaN
-A real man will make sure your children have food, clothing and shelter even if he has to live on the street!
-is one who walks in the purpose God has defined for him.
-A real man is generous, selfless, loyal, dedicated, attentive, romantic, funny, gentle & defender of women & children.
-A real man is a hard worker.
-A real man is not afraid of the truth - either telling it or hearing it!
-is a man who is God fearing....a women should hide herself so deeply in Chirst that a man will have to seek him 1st to find her
-loves on the lord, takes care of his, holds heavy convos 4 the mind, strong & sexy frm the INSIDE out OH! & knws a womens touch!
-A real man is not afraid to be flawed and he lets the ones closest to him know those flaws.
-A real man is a loving & kind soul.One who is gentle,but firm.One that... Read More:
-a real man is a man who professes his love, protects his woman, and who provides for his family
-person who stands by there women supporting her 100% without any jealousy or insecurities...
-a real man is a dead man (dead to self).
-A real man will buy tampax without freaking out! ;-)
-A real man keeps all promises made,listens and knows that becoming one in a relationship takes constant hard work
-Must be a gentlemen!
-a real man is fearless , honest, cautious, sensitive - all under the right "timing" , & for unselfish reasons.
-a real man will always be there for you no matter what
-one who listens with his ears, not his dick
-A real man is never afraid to apologize or to love unconditionally.
-a Real Man is a protecter, provider, lover, friend, comic, dancer (bad or good) and always there when needed.
-A real man is a man that can submit to GOD at all times... That proves his strength.
-a real man to me is someone who put god first and can become a father to another man child
-A real man is...real, trustworthy, honest, faithful, knows himself as well as me.
-A real man is kind gentle soul who is honest, hardworking but never complains about it, and he is not cocky but has confidence
-A real man takes care of his family and listens not ignores.
-a real man to me is simply a man that knows how to handle business. Take care of his responsibilities,be it kids,family,wife,work.
-a real man doesn't hit. A real man tucks his kids into bed, loves his wife, and doesn't hurt animals.
-man who not only respects his wife, but also his mother-in-law.
-A real man is a man who twitters and keeps us updated on feelings, goings on, events
-A real man is someone who goes after what he wants without apology or fear. Although...real women do that, too.
-but someone I can count on and who will always defend and at the same time respect my independence any day.
-a real man is not afraid to express himself honestly and A real man makes me feel like a real woman
-an honestly, loving, hardworking man; not afraid of mistakes and humble in his ordered step. Mature, thoughtful and loving.
-a real man is one who will admit when he's wrong, who isn't afraid of other's opinions, and who's not afraid to show his emotions.
-A real man defines himself. He doesn't need you to define him.(:
-someone who loves you more than himself
-A real man is not afraid to be himself. Loving, strong, understanding, caring,can be corrected if needed and follows God
-A real man shares his easter chocolate with his signifigant other :)
-when you start seeing your man as a essential factor in your life then he is a real man.
-a real man is an honest man, and one that LISTENS to his woman! :)
-a man who is there for his kids no matter what
-a man that is motivated to be established honest caring romantic willing to keep things mutual faithful loving a real man
-A real man fixes you chicken noodle soup when you are sick.
-is someone who can love openly and honestly & never takes more than what he cannot give of himself,in life,love and all he does
-a real man puts god 1st- is not afraid to show emotion,strong enuff to raise his children and always a good friend 2 his lady...
-A Real Man is a man of his word
-a real follows the Lord !st so that his family will respect and follow him. He works hard and gives back without expecting back
-A real man is someone who takes care of his girl!
-a real man is an honest, upstanding, faithful individual!!
-a real man is a man isn't afraid to love his woman and his children more then his ego
-lover, not a fighter
-man who fights for your honor.
-...Someone who is 100% truthful, goes above and beyond for the ones he loves, faithful, loyal, praises God for blessings
-a real man is a man who will love u forever no matter wat u look like and who makes an effort no matter wat and can keep a promise
-a REAL man doesn't bail on a female because she is depressed...a real man takes some responsibility for cheating
-a real man is a man who loves his mother and takes care of his kids
-a man of integrity and values. These are reflected in his everyday decisions and actions.
-knows himself, what he wants and doesn't, what he can do and not, what he can offer & not, and is 100% honest with himself & women
-A real man=100% truthful, goes above and beyond for the ones he loves, faithful, loyal, praises God for blessings
-a man who is willing to love a woman on her worst days, unconditionally.
-true to himself and the one he loves
-a Real Man is a man who takes care of his responsibilities & is not afraid to own up to his mistakes. 1 who will right his wrongs
-someone loyal caring and understanding emotionaly supportive.. a real woman makes her own money doesnt need a man she wants a man
-A real man is one who can do the dishes in one breathe, get under the hood of the car, come home and draw me a bath....
-A Real Man is a respectful gentleman with old school values,a rare find these days,a Real Lady will attract & keep her Real Man
-A real man will say "no" to me, which, from what I hear, is damn near impossible.
-a man who loves you even if you're crazy....
-A real is a man who loves God, because if he loves God he will love you.
-a real man is a friend first and foremost
-aithful, honest man!
-A Real Man is Walking as closely to God and as Christ-like as humanly possible
-takes himself seriously and not controlled by his mom- not addicted to sex and *avail* to & desires the right 1
-a man whose steps are ordered...
-knows that the purpose for his strength is not to abuse or dominate her but to shelter her & provide a haven for her to flourish
-on the real--A REAL man is the essence of God manifested in the character of man. In order to know this one must know GOD!
-A real man is a loving son father and friend.He is also a strong confident humble and caring person and also a protecter&provider
-A real man is a loving son father and friend.He is also a strong confident humble and caring person and also a protecter&provider
-A Real Man knows you can find hot, smart, chicks at the bookstore.
-defined by a real woman. Not every woman deserves a real man. A real man enhances what a woman already has instead of hindering it
-A real man is someone who loves you for exactly who you are... Someone who makes you feel matter what
-a real man is someone who will dance with me anywhere, anytime and who makes me laugh everyday!
-a real man is one who can laugh with u like a girlfriend, protect you like a superhero, listen to u like your mother, and ...
-a man who loves the Lord; because if he loves God, he'll do right by the woman God has blessed him with.
-a real man doesn't work his woman to death when he see's she's been at work all day, has come home, made dinner, fed the fam, washed clothes, taken out the trash, walked the dog,
-a great father with infinate patiance.
-a real man is a man who knows what he wants and goes after it.
-A Real Man is a in sanskrit means mind and a real man has a good one.
-A real Man has integrity and a solid demeanor, good at what he does,and embraces new challenges as he embraces those he loves
-real man-one who does right when no one is looking and says not a word of his good deeds!
-A real man is a secure but compassionate person who carries himself with the upmost dignity at all times
-Hi Hammer a real man is a man that loves & respects his woman, but put God above all else
-A real man is one who loves God, prepares his children to succeed, respects and values women and believes in an honest living.
-a real man is one who will not be afraid to ask for directions.
-A real man is one isn't afraid to show his feelings, a strong role model/but not over-powering & isn't afraid to laugh at himself
-A real man admits to having regrets, regrets indicate an internal spiritual conscience, has morals and recognizes morality overall
-But most important - a real man puts God first in his life & is not ashamed to share that with others...
-a really man is someone that isn't afraid to cry
-a real man is respectful and god-fearing! Amen!
-real men loves Jesus :) and takes responsibilty for their actions!! Yeah!
-a real man is first of all a man who loves GOD, loves his mother and sisters. He treats all women with respect
-a believer of God, an inspiration to many, a protector, hard working, loyal, faithful, passionate, respectful, loving
-a real man believes in the lord and instiles that value in his family. Is a protector and a provider.
-however many jobs necessary, makes his family feel protected. Respects women, himself, his marriage/relationship.Trustworthy
-a real man is a man who walks rather then runs
-real man.courageous enough to bring growth in weakness/ wise enough to lead through adaptation of self..humble enough to BE love

Monday, April 13, 2009

Listening To Sharpies: Jacques' Broken Headphone Story

Listening To Sharpies: Jacques' Broken Headphones Story from Jacques Morel on Vimeo.

I guess this is it for now. AndreaMonique is moving on to other things. I pray for her continued success.

Thursday, April 9, 2009

Monday, April 6, 2009

Drea's Def Poetry Monday's: Saul Williams "Coded Language"

Sunday, April 5, 2009

Drea's Def Poetry Monday's: Rafael Casal "Ken and Barbie 101"

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Saturday, March 14, 2009

Drea's Def Poetry Monday's- Perre Shelton "Dandelion"

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for Dreas-Def-Poetry-Mondays- every Monday (almost-lol).

I Still Love H.E.R. (atributetohiphop)

From -

You Chicago cats need to go check this show out and tell me if it worth me flying to the windy city to see it for myself.

Friday, March 13, 2009

Thursday, March 12, 2009

Five minutes to a great


My mom, of all people, was feeling this video, so you know its wholesome goodness.

DUJEOUS - "BREAK BREAD" from Dujeous LLC on Vimeo.

Tuesday, March 10, 2009

Keyboard Drum Set
Whether for real business or just light games, there are social networks aplenty.
Here is a small list of the ones I am currently aware of. If you know of any others, let me know. Oh yes, some of these are more social/interactive then others.
Please check them out and post your review in the comments section.

and finally where you can create your own social network
Thinking about starting your own web show?
Here some thoughts.

There are many sites where you can do live shows too.

And nothing beats for helping get the word out on your show.
Oh, and don't forget to send me the link, so I can watch it too.

If you have any additional suggestions for making a great web show, let me know.

Monday, March 9, 2009

I am happily surprised to see this website still has its photos up. It closed for business a minute ago. It was a good concept that just did not get enough love. The idea is similar to Flickr, in that you can upload your photos, but the catch here was that this website published a magazine made from contributions. So this was the place to upload your stuff if you wanted to have an opportunity to have it published in a beautiful glossy magazine. Each magazine had a theme and members of the website had the opportunity to vote on what would make it into the magazine. Anyways, while it still up, you can check out the pics that caught my eye in a strong way.
Jacque and Drea are fun to watch (especially Drea - ya know what I mean)
I would like to see them move up to high definition and make their videos available as a podcast on iTunes so I can put them on my iPod. Presents : Listening to Sharpies Featuring Joe Budden's Padded Room from Jacques Morel on Vimeo.

Friday, February 27, 2009

Monday, February 23, 2009 Listens to Drake "So Far Gone" from Jacques Morel on Vimeo.
Jacques Morel Reviews Well Isn’t This Awkward (Video) listens to Charles Hamilton "Well Isn't This Awkward" from Jacques Morel on Vimeo.
Originally written
Sunday, September 23, 2007

America at War
Category: News and Politics
Today our government wants to fill us with fear over the possibility of terrorism. Over and over we get shown the devastation that happened in New York City.We are being told that we must be on the watch out for radical islamist forces who want to destroy us.

The real enemy does not come from Islamic countries. The real enemy is in the mirror. Our own ignorance and our inability to think for ourselves and instead take for granted whatever information we are provided by the media is the true danger.

We are being asked to give up, peace by peace, the freedoms that millions of Americans have fought and died for since the founding our our country. Are we going to sit by and have our freedoms watered down?

Do we want to live in a country where we can be picked up by government forces and made to dissappear, with no access to family or a lawyer? Guess what, its already happening. Our congressmen and senators have approved of laws that allow our rights to be ignored "In the interest of National Security." So basically, if some government type decides we need to be made to dissappear because they say we threaten National Security, then we're gone, no trial, no chance to defend ourself.

All this is being allowed by our lack of involvement. Our choice to simply focus on only our lives and how events directly effect us will come to haunt us. To have a country worth living in, we need to be constantly on the lookout for how we are all treated and make sure our government gets spanked when they act in ways that deny us our fundamental freedoms.

So, what am I asking us to do?

We can start by opening our eyes and looking at the big picture and not simply the microcosm of our life.

We can start by writing all your representatives and telling them that our fundamental freedoms are not to compromised for any reason.

We can consistently vote. I know some of us think our vote is insignificant. In fact it is not. With every vote we show that we care about what is going on. Showng our leaders we care and are ready to take action is the most significant thing we can do.
I think he wrote this after losing his wife.

A Message by George Carlin:

The paradox of our time in history is that we have taller buildings but shorter tempers, wider Freeways, but narrower viewpoints. We spend more, but have less, we buy more, but enjoy less. We have bigger houses and smaller families, more conveniences, but less time. We have more degrees but less sense, more knowledge, but less judgment, more experts, yet more problems, more medicine, but less wellness.

We drink too much, smoke too much, spend too recklessly, laugh too little, drive too fast, get too angry, stay up too late, get up too tired, read too little, watch TV too much, and pray too seldom.

We have multiplied our possessions, but reduced our values. We talk too much, love too seldom, and hate too often.

We've learned how to make a living, but not a life. We've added years to life not life to years. We've been all the way to the moon and back, but have trouble crossing the street to meet a new neighbor. We conquered outer space but not inner space. We've done larger things, but not better things.

We've cleaned up the air, but polluted the soul. We've conquered the atom, but not our prejudice. We write more, but learn less. We plan more, but accomplish less. We've learned to rush, but not to wait. We build more computers to hold more information, to produce more copies than ever, but we communicate less and less.

These are the times of fast foods and slow digestion, big men a nd small character, steep profits and shallow relationships. These are the days of two incomes but more divorce, fancier houses, but broken homes. These are days of quick trips, disposable diapers, throwaway morality, one night stands, overweight bodies, and pills that do everything from cheer, to quiet, to kill. It is a time when there is much in the showroom window and nothing in the stockroom. A time when technology can bring this letter to you, and a time when you can choose either to share this insight, or to just hit delete...

Remember; spend some time with your loved ones, because they are not going to be around forever.

Remember, say a kind word to someone who looks up to you in awe, because that little person soon will grow up and leave your side.

Remember, to give a warm hug to the one next to you, because that is the only treasure you can give with your heart and it doesn't cost a cent.

Remember, to say, "I love you" to your partner and your loved ones, but most of all mean it. A kiss and an embrace will mend hurt when it comes from deep inside of you.

Remember to hold hands and cherish the moment for someday that person will not be there again.

Give time to love, give time to speak! And give time to share the precious thoughts in your mind.


Life is not measured by the number of breaths we take, but by the moments that take our breath away.

If you don't send on ...Who cares? But I'm sending it to you....

George Carlin

George Denis Patrick Carlin (May 12, 1937 – June 22, 2008)
Originally written last year
Monday, February 04, 2008

Love at first sight?
Category: Life
Do you believe in Love at first sight? I think that belief in this concept must begin with a true understanding of what it means to Love. Some people think that Love is something that just happens and for which we, the individual have no control whatsoever. I do not see it that way. What I do not have control over is who I am attracted to, because attraction is all about the DNA and the Chemistry. There are those that would argue that the Chemistry is the definition of Love. How many relationships with Chemistry have died on the vine? Chemistry is not Love. Chemistry and Attraction are factors in Love. These and other factors are what help us come to a decision on how we want a particular relationship to go forward. The decision to establish and build a relationship to one with more trust, interdependence and intimacy is the decision to Love. The concept, therefore, of Love at first sight is not so strange, then, if you consider that different people require different amounts of time to come to a decision. Some simply use the attraction factor to make this decision while others use chemistry. If you real unlucky, you get both. j/k lol
But seriously, attraction combined with chemistry can drive people crazy and its easy to see why so many poems, songs, and books have been written about this torture we allow mother nature to put us through. But lets get back to my original question; what of Love at first sight? Is it possible? Of course it is. A DECISION can be made in a microsecond. Whether its a good decision or not takes a lot longer to figure out. Real long lasting Love takes people who are willing to work at it. Yes, it takes work! Who ever told you it was supposed to be easy lied to you! Some couples make it look easy, for sure, just like Michael Jordan makes basketball look easy. Jordan will tell you that his ability was not a simple gift from God. God gave him opportunities, opportunities which Jordan was able to take advantage of because of the hard work thru hours of practice he put into his craft. Relationships are no different. We have to put in the time and effort to make it to the pros and we can never stop practicing if we want to stay on top. As many have learned to their dismay, Chemistry does not always last. For many couples this is the end of their relationship. They will make a decision that the Love is gone. Please remember, Love last for as long as we decide to show Love.