I think women are confused as to what it means to play "hard to get."
Playing "hard to get" should Not mean refusing to have conversations with men and getting to know them as an individual.
It should mean waiting until you know them before you take the step that makes you intimate partners.
So a woman can encourage a man to communicate with her and even become friends and still be "hard to get."
Too many women think "hard to get" means waiting until a man shows up with original charismatic lines (read Swagger) b4 she gives it up.
Sorry ladies, if all a man needs is the right Swagger to get you in his bed, then you are NOT "hard to get."