I think women are confused as to what it means to play "hard to get."
Playing "hard to get" should Not mean refusing to have conversations with men and getting to know them as an individual.
It should mean waiting until you know them before you take the step that makes you intimate partners.
So a woman can encourage a man to communicate with her and even become friends and still be "hard to get."
Too many women think "hard to get" means waiting until a man shows up with original charismatic lines (read Swagger) b4 she gives it up.
Sorry ladies, if all a man needs is the right Swagger to get you in his bed, then you are NOT "hard to get."
Monday, October 26, 2009
Saturday, October 24, 2009
Three parts to a Man - Mind, Body and Soul
Mind - craves Knowledge. Teach him.
Body - craves Touch. Hold him.
Soul - craves Love. Lead him.
Tuesday, October 20, 2009
WHAT HAPPENS IN HEAVEN - A friend shared this story with me
WHAT HAPPENS IN HEAVEN
This is one of the nicest e-mails I have seen and is so true:
I dreamt that I went to Heaven and an angel was showing me around. We walked side-by-side inside a large workroom filled with angels. My angel guide stopped in front of the first section and said, 'This is the Receiving Section. Here, all petitions to God said in prayer are received. '
I looked around in this area, and it was terribly busy with so many angels sorting out petitions written on voluminous paper sheets and scraps from people all over the world.
Then we moved on down a long corridor until we reached the second section.
The angel then said to me, ' This is the Packaging and Delivery Section. Here, the graces and blessings the people asked for are processed and delivered to the living persons who asked for them. ' I noticed again how busy it was there. There were many angels working hard at that station, since so many blessings had been requested and were being packaged for delivery to Earth.
Finally at the farthest end of the long corridor we stopped at the door of a very small station. To my great surprise, only one angel was seated there, idly doing nothing. 'This is the Acknowledgment Section,' my angel friend quietly admitted to me. He seemed embarrassed. 'How is it that there is no work going on here?' I asked.
'So sad,' the angel sighed. 'After people receive the blessings that they asked for, very few send back acknowledgments.'
'How does one acknowledge God's blessings? ' I asked.
'Simple,' the angel answered. Just say, ' Thank you, Lord. '
'What blessings should they acknowledge? ' I asked.
'If you have food in the refrigerator, clothes on your back, a roof overhead and a place to sleep you are richer than 75% of this world. If you have money in the bank, in your wallet, and spare change in a dish, you are among the top 8% of the world 's wealthy.'
'And if you get this on your own computer, you are part of the 1% in the world who has that opportunity. '
'If you woke up this morning with more health than illness ... You are more blessed than the many who will not even survive this day.'
'If you have never experienced the fear in battle, the loneliness of imprisonment, the agony of torture, or the pangs of starvation .. You are ahead of 700 million people in the world. '
'If you can attend a place of worship without the fear of harassment, arrest, torture or death you are envied by, and more blessed than, three billion people in the world.. '
'If your parents are still alive and still married ..you are very rare. '
'If you can hold your head up and smile, you are not the norm, you're unique to all those in doubt and despair. '
Ok, what now? How can I start?
If you can read this message, you just received a double blessing in that someone was thinking of you as very special and you are more blessed than over two billion people in the world who cannot read at all.
Have a good day, count your blessings, and if you care to, pass this along to remind everyone else how blessed we all are.
This is one of the nicest e-mails I have seen and is so true:
I dreamt that I went to Heaven and an angel was showing me around. We walked side-by-side inside a large workroom filled with angels. My angel guide stopped in front of the first section and said, 'This is the Receiving Section. Here, all petitions to God said in prayer are received. '
I looked around in this area, and it was terribly busy with so many angels sorting out petitions written on voluminous paper sheets and scraps from people all over the world.
Then we moved on down a long corridor until we reached the second section.
The angel then said to me, ' This is the Packaging and Delivery Section. Here, the graces and blessings the people asked for are processed and delivered to the living persons who asked for them. ' I noticed again how busy it was there. There were many angels working hard at that station, since so many blessings had been requested and were being packaged for delivery to Earth.
Finally at the farthest end of the long corridor we stopped at the door of a very small station. To my great surprise, only one angel was seated there, idly doing nothing. 'This is the Acknowledgment Section,' my angel friend quietly admitted to me. He seemed embarrassed. 'How is it that there is no work going on here?' I asked.
'So sad,' the angel sighed. 'After people receive the blessings that they asked for, very few send back acknowledgments.'
'How does one acknowledge God's blessings? ' I asked.
'Simple,' the angel answered. Just say, ' Thank you, Lord. '
'What blessings should they acknowledge? ' I asked.
'If you have food in the refrigerator, clothes on your back, a roof overhead and a place to sleep you are richer than 75% of this world. If you have money in the bank, in your wallet, and spare change in a dish, you are among the top 8% of the world 's wealthy.'
'And if you get this on your own computer, you are part of the 1% in the world who has that opportunity. '
'If you woke up this morning with more health than illness ... You are more blessed than the many who will not even survive this day.'
'If you have never experienced the fear in battle, the loneliness of imprisonment, the agony of torture, or the pangs of starvation .. You are ahead of 700 million people in the world. '
'If you can attend a place of worship without the fear of harassment, arrest, torture or death you are envied by, and more blessed than, three billion people in the world.. '
'If your parents are still alive and still married ..you are very rare. '
'If you can hold your head up and smile, you are not the norm, you're unique to all those in doubt and despair. '
Ok, what now? How can I start?
If you can read this message, you just received a double blessing in that someone was thinking of you as very special and you are more blessed than over two billion people in the world who cannot read at all.
Have a good day, count your blessings, and if you care to, pass this along to remind everyone else how blessed we all are.
Monday, October 5, 2009
Decision2Love tweet rants II
When u view Love from a point of scarcity your instinct is to cling to any signs of Love you see.
12:47 PM Oct 11th from mobile web
But when you view Love from a point of abundance you realize its ok to be alone with yourself.
12:49 PM Oct 11th from mobile web
We need to understand that Loving others is, or should be, natural to us.
12:52 PM Oct 11th from mobile web
We cannot stop the one we want to build with from being inspired to Love others.
12:56 PM Oct 11th from mobile web
All we can do is build a strong foundation TOGETHER with them, maintain it and have Faith in what we have built.
12:59 PM Oct 11th from mobile web
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To all u indie artists, ur relationship with ur fans is the diff btween staying hungry or eating a three course meal!
12:16 PM Oct 11th from mobile web
Are you using all that is available to build that connection?
12:18 PM Oct 11th from mobile web
When u take the time to build that foundation with ur loyal fans, they will be your vanguard!
12:21 PM Oct 11th from mobile web
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A strong foundation is vital to a skyscraper. When you reach for the sky, be sure of your foundation.
10:53 PM Oct 10th from web
If you want to build with someone, understand that to build a foundation you must begin with a conversation.
10:54 PM Oct 10th from web
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Listening to - Natasha Bedingfield - Soulmate http://bit.ly/MDnLR
12:21 PM Oct 6th from web
"Who knows how to Love you without being told." That unrealistic expectation is why your alone. Some teaching is always required!
12:22 PM Oct 6th from web
I try to keep my distance from two types of people - those who refuse to teach and those who refuse to learn. Explains a lot. =/
12:24 PM Oct 6th from web
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On more then one occasion I have heard women joke that they can tell within 5 seconds of meeting a guy whether he is gonna get sum 2nite.
5:58 PM Oct 5th from web
Is this true ladies?
5:58 PM Oct 5th from web
The other day a woman complained that the word Love was too important a word to be used so often, so casually.
5:59 PM Oct 5th from web
Ladies, do you agree?
6:00 PM Oct 5th from web
Ok ladies, what about the entryway to your womb, is that important? Should that be offered so casually?
6:02 PM Oct 5th from web
Lets make a deal. I will not judge you for how quickly you open your legs and you will not judge me for how quickly I open my heart. Deal?
6:03 PM Oct 5th from web
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I've learned that it doesn't matter if you did nothing wrong. You can still be blamed for breaking someone's heart. =/
5:06 PM Oct 5th from web
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I Love You! Practice Love's dance daily. Eventually you'll learn all the steps and will be able to tango with the best. ;)
10:00 AM Oct 1st from web
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A lot of intense heat without any ingredients just leads to a burnt pot.
10:34 AM Sep 29th from web
If you don't know what the recipe is, get a cookbook.
10:36 AM Sep 29th from web
The ability to turn on the stove doesn't make you a chef.
10:37 AM Sep 29th from web
If the recipe says you need to let it simmer, then putting the heat on blast makes you an idiot!
10:45 AM Sep 29th from web
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12:47 PM Oct 11th from mobile web
But when you view Love from a point of abundance you realize its ok to be alone with yourself.
12:49 PM Oct 11th from mobile web
We need to understand that Loving others is, or should be, natural to us.
12:52 PM Oct 11th from mobile web
We cannot stop the one we want to build with from being inspired to Love others.
12:56 PM Oct 11th from mobile web
All we can do is build a strong foundation TOGETHER with them, maintain it and have Faith in what we have built.
12:59 PM Oct 11th from mobile web
--------------------------------------------------------------------------------------
To all u indie artists, ur relationship with ur fans is the diff btween staying hungry or eating a three course meal!
12:16 PM Oct 11th from mobile web
Are you using all that is available to build that connection?
12:18 PM Oct 11th from mobile web
When u take the time to build that foundation with ur loyal fans, they will be your vanguard!
12:21 PM Oct 11th from mobile web
---------------------------------------------------------------------------------------
A strong foundation is vital to a skyscraper. When you reach for the sky, be sure of your foundation.
10:53 PM Oct 10th from web
If you want to build with someone, understand that to build a foundation you must begin with a conversation.
10:54 PM Oct 10th from web
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Listening to - Natasha Bedingfield - Soulmate http://bit.ly/MDnLR
12:21 PM Oct 6th from web
"Who knows how to Love you without being told." That unrealistic expectation is why your alone. Some teaching is always required!
12:22 PM Oct 6th from web
I try to keep my distance from two types of people - those who refuse to teach and those who refuse to learn. Explains a lot. =/
12:24 PM Oct 6th from web
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On more then one occasion I have heard women joke that they can tell within 5 seconds of meeting a guy whether he is gonna get sum 2nite.
5:58 PM Oct 5th from web
Is this true ladies?
5:58 PM Oct 5th from web
The other day a woman complained that the word Love was too important a word to be used so often, so casually.
5:59 PM Oct 5th from web
Ladies, do you agree?
6:00 PM Oct 5th from web
Ok ladies, what about the entryway to your womb, is that important? Should that be offered so casually?
6:02 PM Oct 5th from web
Lets make a deal. I will not judge you for how quickly you open your legs and you will not judge me for how quickly I open my heart. Deal?
6:03 PM Oct 5th from web
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I've learned that it doesn't matter if you did nothing wrong. You can still be blamed for breaking someone's heart. =/
5:06 PM Oct 5th from web
------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------
I Love You! Practice Love's dance daily. Eventually you'll learn all the steps and will be able to tango with the best. ;)
10:00 AM Oct 1st from web
-----------------------------------------------------------------------------------------
A lot of intense heat without any ingredients just leads to a burnt pot.
10:34 AM Sep 29th from web
If you don't know what the recipe is, get a cookbook.
10:36 AM Sep 29th from web
The ability to turn on the stove doesn't make you a chef.
10:37 AM Sep 29th from web
If the recipe says you need to let it simmer, then putting the heat on blast makes you an idiot!
10:45 AM Sep 29th from web
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Tuesday, September 29, 2009
Decision2Love tweet rants.
Those that work the (established ) system are followers. Those that change the system are leaders.
11:46 AM Sep 16th from mobile web
Are you following or leading?
11:47 AM Sep 16th from mobile web
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Romance is dead and women killed it!
10:03 PM Sep 24th from web
There is always something to complain about for women. Either he doesn't say "I Love You" ever, or he says it too soon for her to handle.
10:14 PM Sep 24th from web
One woman went so far as to complain about the gestures men make to inspire her to Love. So much for Romance.
10:16 PM Sep 24th from web
So why do I think Romance is a goner? Well lets look at the reason men invented it. Men don't need it anymore to get some.
10:17 PM Sep 24th from web
There are women aplenty that don't give a shit about Love and relationships and only want to get the deed done.
10:19 PM Sep 24th from web
Men are no longer motivated to do anything special. They know if one plays to hard to get, he has 100 other numbers to call.
10:20 PM Sep 24th from web
Women decided they were going to be as bad as men, and they have succeeded!
10:22 PM Sep 24th from web
Congratulations ladies!
10:27 PM Sep 24th from web
Heads up ladies, if u really looking to be the Equal of men, don't go about it trying 2 be as Bad as us. Try being as much a leader instead
10:30 PM Sep 24th from web
Ladies need to stop complaining about what men don't do and start doing it themselves.
10:33 PM Sep 24th from web
And next time a man reaches out to you, give yourself the opportunity to have at least one real conversation b4 writing him off.
10:36 PM Sep 24th from web
Some of you ladies need to understand that men who really want to respect you are not gonna try to bag you the first night.
10:41 PM Sep 24th from web
These same men will gladly do so if you make it clear thats what you really want.
10:43 PM Sep 24th from web
The problem with many women though is that they are unwilling to be honest with themselves and men about sex.
10:47 PM Sep 24th from web
So ladies, if you want to have sex like men, don't complain about the lack of Romance. Men don't need flowers to get the job done.
10:51 PM Sep 24th from web
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Here are two choices. Which one would you choose? A small bowl of extraordinary delicious food at $100 a serving or a full plate of ...cont-
6:52 PM Sep 26th from web
ordinary humble good food for $10 at the all you can eat buffet?
6:53 PM Sep 26th from web
So I read a tweet where a woman said she would rather have a slice of a great man then the whole of an ordinary one.
6:54 PM Sep 26th from web
She sounds like mistress material to me.
6:55 PM Sep 26th from web
When did being an ordinary good man become a bad thing? Why is it we all have to strive to be rockstars to be deserving of a woman's Love?
6:58 PM Sep 26th from web
Btw, someone who cares to take the time can take ordinary ingredients and turn them into something extraordinary. Love does wonders.
7:02 PM Sep 26th from web
What is important is having the right basics already in place. You have to have a good foundation of ingredients.
7:06 PM Sep 26th from web
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Love cannot be owned, only shared.
12:30 PM Sep 27th from mobile web
When you don't take time to reflect your vulnerable to accepting B.S. as wisdom. Set aside time.
12:39 PM Sep 27th from mobile web
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Everyone keeps repeating "never make some1 a Priority when ur jus their Option." I disagree. You cant keep everyone an Option 4ever.
12:10 AM Sep 28th from web
Eventually someone has to make a decision to make one of their options a priority and place a bet that the decision will be reciprocated.
12:11 AM Sep 28th from web
If its not reciprocated, so be it, but at least you have grown as a person in the attempt.
12:13 AM Sep 28th from web
It would be fantastic if the person you loved met you half way, but it does not seem to work that way.
12:14 AM Sep 28th from web
The thing is, once you've reached out and made clear how you feel, let them go. You can't make someone return feelings.
12:19 AM Sep 28th from web
What should have been said, "there is a limit to how long you make someone a priority while they keep you as an option."
12:31 AM Sep 28th from web
The history of courtship (as shown in literature and film) has been of 1 woman pursued by numerous men. Eventually the best man wins her <3.
12:37 AM Sep 28th from web
What has changed is the fact that men are less inclined to pursue women, since women give away their prized possession long b4 marriage.
12:41 AM Sep 28th from web
Double standard? Yes, it is. Romance and Chivalry come with a history and a price- a set of rules of how a woman should act.
12:45 AM Sep 28th from web
This reminds me of a couple of articles I read recently on women and happiness.
12:50 AM Sep 28th from web
The first article I read said that in general, women today are less happy then they were a few decades ago.
12:51 AM Sep 28th from web
Afterward I was left with the impression that perhaps it had something to do with women's growing Equality.
12:53 AM Sep 28th from web
Interestingly enough, another article came out in regards to feminist women and how very happy they are in general. Hmmm.
12:54 AM Sep 28th from web
So if feminist women are generally very happy, but women in general are less happy then they were decades ago, then what gives?
12:55 AM Sep 28th from web
I'm still thinking it has something to do with the move towards more Equality for women.
12:56 AM Sep 28th from web
I'm thinking that if feminist women are generally very happy and in stable relationships, then the problem must be with non-feminist.
12:58 AM Sep 28th from web
My theory is that the happiness factor is lower among women who do not want to accept Equality and the loss of perks that results.
1:04 AM Sep 28th from web
Too many women are deluding themselves into thinking that by having as much sex as men they are proving themselves the equal of men. smh
1:14 AM Sep 28th from web
Demonstrating Leadership is the only way for women to show they are equals. Duplicating men's hijinks just makes women look foolish.
1:20 AM Sep 28th from web
I repeat, Ladies, you must be willing & able to lead at every stage of a relationship or you are as lame as the men you complain about.
1:22 AM Sep 28th from web
11:46 AM Sep 16th from mobile web
Are you following or leading?
11:47 AM Sep 16th from mobile web
-------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------
Romance is dead and women killed it!
10:03 PM Sep 24th from web
There is always something to complain about for women. Either he doesn't say "I Love You" ever, or he says it too soon for her to handle.
10:14 PM Sep 24th from web
One woman went so far as to complain about the gestures men make to inspire her to Love. So much for Romance.
10:16 PM Sep 24th from web
So why do I think Romance is a goner? Well lets look at the reason men invented it. Men don't need it anymore to get some.
10:17 PM Sep 24th from web
There are women aplenty that don't give a shit about Love and relationships and only want to get the deed done.
10:19 PM Sep 24th from web
Men are no longer motivated to do anything special. They know if one plays to hard to get, he has 100 other numbers to call.
10:20 PM Sep 24th from web
Women decided they were going to be as bad as men, and they have succeeded!
10:22 PM Sep 24th from web
Congratulations ladies!
10:27 PM Sep 24th from web
Heads up ladies, if u really looking to be the Equal of men, don't go about it trying 2 be as Bad as us. Try being as much a leader instead
10:30 PM Sep 24th from web
Ladies need to stop complaining about what men don't do and start doing it themselves.
10:33 PM Sep 24th from web
And next time a man reaches out to you, give yourself the opportunity to have at least one real conversation b4 writing him off.
10:36 PM Sep 24th from web
Some of you ladies need to understand that men who really want to respect you are not gonna try to bag you the first night.
10:41 PM Sep 24th from web
These same men will gladly do so if you make it clear thats what you really want.
10:43 PM Sep 24th from web
The problem with many women though is that they are unwilling to be honest with themselves and men about sex.
10:47 PM Sep 24th from web
So ladies, if you want to have sex like men, don't complain about the lack of Romance. Men don't need flowers to get the job done.
10:51 PM Sep 24th from web
-------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------
Here are two choices. Which one would you choose? A small bowl of extraordinary delicious food at $100 a serving or a full plate of ...cont-
6:52 PM Sep 26th from web
ordinary humble good food for $10 at the all you can eat buffet?
6:53 PM Sep 26th from web
So I read a tweet where a woman said she would rather have a slice of a great man then the whole of an ordinary one.
6:54 PM Sep 26th from web
She sounds like mistress material to me.
6:55 PM Sep 26th from web
When did being an ordinary good man become a bad thing? Why is it we all have to strive to be rockstars to be deserving of a woman's Love?
6:58 PM Sep 26th from web
Btw, someone who cares to take the time can take ordinary ingredients and turn them into something extraordinary. Love does wonders.
7:02 PM Sep 26th from web
What is important is having the right basics already in place. You have to have a good foundation of ingredients.
7:06 PM Sep 26th from web
-------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------
Love cannot be owned, only shared.
12:30 PM Sep 27th from mobile web
When you don't take time to reflect your vulnerable to accepting B.S. as wisdom. Set aside time.
12:39 PM Sep 27th from mobile web
-------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------
Everyone keeps repeating "never make some1 a Priority when ur jus their Option." I disagree. You cant keep everyone an Option 4ever.
12:10 AM Sep 28th from web
Eventually someone has to make a decision to make one of their options a priority and place a bet that the decision will be reciprocated.
12:11 AM Sep 28th from web
If its not reciprocated, so be it, but at least you have grown as a person in the attempt.
12:13 AM Sep 28th from web
It would be fantastic if the person you loved met you half way, but it does not seem to work that way.
12:14 AM Sep 28th from web
The thing is, once you've reached out and made clear how you feel, let them go. You can't make someone return feelings.
12:19 AM Sep 28th from web
What should have been said, "there is a limit to how long you make someone a priority while they keep you as an option."
12:31 AM Sep 28th from web
The history of courtship (as shown in literature and film) has been of 1 woman pursued by numerous men. Eventually the best man wins her <3.
12:37 AM Sep 28th from web
What has changed is the fact that men are less inclined to pursue women, since women give away their prized possession long b4 marriage.
12:41 AM Sep 28th from web
Double standard? Yes, it is. Romance and Chivalry come with a history and a price- a set of rules of how a woman should act.
12:45 AM Sep 28th from web
This reminds me of a couple of articles I read recently on women and happiness.
12:50 AM Sep 28th from web
The first article I read said that in general, women today are less happy then they were a few decades ago.
12:51 AM Sep 28th from web
Afterward I was left with the impression that perhaps it had something to do with women's growing Equality.
12:53 AM Sep 28th from web
Interestingly enough, another article came out in regards to feminist women and how very happy they are in general. Hmmm.
12:54 AM Sep 28th from web
So if feminist women are generally very happy, but women in general are less happy then they were decades ago, then what gives?
12:55 AM Sep 28th from web
I'm still thinking it has something to do with the move towards more Equality for women.
12:56 AM Sep 28th from web
I'm thinking that if feminist women are generally very happy and in stable relationships, then the problem must be with non-feminist.
12:58 AM Sep 28th from web
My theory is that the happiness factor is lower among women who do not want to accept Equality and the loss of perks that results.
1:04 AM Sep 28th from web
Too many women are deluding themselves into thinking that by having as much sex as men they are proving themselves the equal of men. smh
1:14 AM Sep 28th from web
Demonstrating Leadership is the only way for women to show they are equals. Duplicating men's hijinks just makes women look foolish.
1:20 AM Sep 28th from web
I repeat, Ladies, you must be willing & able to lead at every stage of a relationship or you are as lame as the men you complain about.
1:22 AM Sep 28th from web
Wednesday, September 9, 2009
Wednesday, September 2, 2009
The Last Lecture by Randy Pausch
As seen on Oprah
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=R9ya9BXClRw&feature=player_embedded
The full Lecture given at the University
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ji5_MqicxSo&feature=player_embedded
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=R9ya9BXClRw&feature=player_embedded
The full Lecture given at the University
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ji5_MqicxSo&feature=player_embedded
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